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The corollary to fighting over the lawn ornaments is giving up too soon on a legitimate position.  I find this situation to be most common when one spouse or the other is fundamentally upset about getting divorced in the first place and does not have the stomach for the fight.  Not to be sexist, but in my experience it is the wife who seems to most often adopt this attitude (not always by a long shot!).  I will find myself taking a much harder line than my client seems to want and it can create some conflict in the lawyer-client relationship.

At the height of such disputes I often have to dust off the many sad war stories of an ex-spouse who comes to see me about two years afterthey got divorced and have suddenly realized that the property division or spousal support/alimony arrangement that they rushed into is not so good.  For some reason it seems to take about two years for folks to wake up to the idea that they got screwed.  The reality is that they screwed themselves and there is usually not much to be done about it.

Never be afraid to press a legitimate position.